It's OK to Not Fit In


“Why fit in when you were born to stand out?” ~ Dr. Suess

I Didn't Fit In Either.

When I was younger, I spent most of my time on the outside looking in. Because of my early life experience, I always felt awkward and out of place. Unfortunately, I was on the outside of myself too. I was experiencing unspeakable abuse within my family that set me apart from all the other kids. Eventually, as time went on, I became a troubled teenager. Simply put, I lost my happiness.

Why This is OK

We all go through things that shake our core and take our "happy" away. We cannot fight against things that are beyond our control! And for those who are young or those of us who have untreated trauma, it may feel as if your world is quickly falling apart, or you may feel as if you're spiraling out of control. This is very common and, trust me, you are not alone.

This is LIFE. We cannot be expected to know how to handle everything that comes our way, but we can connect with others who have been where we currently are or those who have moved beyond their pain. They (we) can share valuable healing tools that helped them navigate some of the most painful times in their lives.

We fit in when we align ourselves with those who are like-minded and who have compassion for what we are going through. If people don't get you, the chances are that they simply cannot identify with your path or your pain. And this is OK. There are so many who are on the same journey; you just need to find them and connect with them.

Your Experiences are What Make YOU-YOU!

You cannot change the past. You cannot change others. You cannot control the behavior of others. What you can control is how you respond to them and how you move forward in your way. You do not have to apologize for being who you are due to your life experiences. You are stronger than you think, and your life has a purpose and a meaning beyond having to fight to be seen or heard. If you don't fit in where you are, then move to space where you do fit in. For me, that took some time, but I never gave up on myself, no matter how hard life got at times. Even when I was depressed and on the verge of many nervous breakdowns, I somehow managed to read, watch and connect with people and social media and social circles that helped me grow when I felt like an outcast in my own life.

Connect with Those Who Get YOU!

Most importantly, you are not alone. You do not have to suffer in silence. There are so many helplines, YouTube channels, Instagram pages, and real-life advocates that are willing to help because they know what it is like to NOT fit in with those who do not have the same life experiences. You do not need to feel like a stranger in your own life. Reach out for help and connect with those who you DO fit in around.

Get creative and find those who you resonate with and connect with them. That is what I did, and I feel that may help you too. I have a lot of great connections on my Instagram feed. We are many, and we are here to help! Instagram is where I have connected with a hugely supportive group of recovery souls who inspire me every day.


It is OK and sometimes better to NOT fit in. Those who get you will love you and like you regardless of your inner weird, quirks, and the silly things that make you YOU. I have many characteristics, and my soul tribe embraces my inner weird and encourages me to be more authentic because of it all. We are who we are, and no apologies are ever needed!


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@rebecca.l.edwards (Instagram)

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