A New Pair of Glasses

“Character cannot be developed in ease and quite. Only through experience of trial and suffering can the soul be strengthened, vision cleared, ambition inspired, and success achieved.”  ~ Helen Keller

My character is defined through my actions. At one point in my life I did not understand what that meant. As I look at where I am today, I finally understand what I do on a daily basis can, and will, create my reality. Day by day, my life becomes a mosaic of my actions. Piece by piece, I am discarding what no longer serves my souls evolution and yet, at the same time, I am discovering new aspects of my character that are developing through trust, love, humor, and the willingness to learn more and more about myself and others. 

When anger, anxiety, confusion, sadness, or shame  re-appear from the depths of my subconscious,  I breathe, connect with my body, and look for ways to nurture the part of myself that still feels fearful, uncertain, and unsafe. I then pause, pray, and ask for an increased awareness to bring into focus what needs my immediate attention. Turns out what has triggered me, it is not, at all, how I have perceived it to be, it is often very different. In order to get a clear perspective, I must step back and take another look. 

Will I ever be cured of my character defects? Probably not! I do, however, spend time each day reflecting on what makes me feel whole, complete, and grounded. When I do this,  I become more skilled at moving closer to what feels good and farther away from what does not. I also incorporate The Four Absolutes (Oxford Group) into my daily routine to help me navigate how I conduct my behavior and they are: Honesty, Unselfishness, Love, and Purity.  For me, there must be a constant striving toward greater achievement in the qualities that they represent. Right living is a combination of all four of these character building assets.

If my actions are based upon these Four Absolutes then I have, indeed, put on a new pair of glasses and what I see becomes more and more a part of me and my reality-forever!

 

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